7 reasons not to forgive an infidelity

There are many reasons not to forgive betrayal, since a relationship or a cheated person will never be one.  Should I be given a second chance?  Read on and find out.

When this happens, it is natural for the affected member of the couple to weigh whether they decide not to forgive the betrayal.  And that is because it breaches trust, complicates, breaks promises, interferes with intimacy, brings misery, and irreparably damages the relationship.

In fact, you have broken the foundation of stability, it is reasonable that the time has come to consider whether it is worthwhile to continue with the relationship or vice versa, it is better to end.

While it is true that making mistakes is human and forgiving is divine, in this article, we give you 7 reasons why you should think twice before forgiving your unbelief.

Betrayal: Causes and Consequences

There are many reasons why a person may be unfaithful to a diverse nature.  However, the results are the same: deep wounds in the relationship.  Because betrayal is a form of betrayal, almost an "attack" against the basis of commitment and mutual trust.

Many times the person who has been unfaithful apologizes and, after that, pretends that everything goes on as before.  However, it cannot go back.  Faith has been betrayed and, as historian Nikolai Lorga has explained, "faith is lost only once."

Thus, the question arises whether the disbeliever among the deceived person should be forgiven.  Because, of course, he is not obliged to continue the relationship after what happened.

After weighing the advantages and disadvantages of both options, it is up to you to make an important decision.  And to say "this is the end" would be perfectly valid.

The reason for not forgiving a disbelief

There are many reasons to end a relationship after a betrayal.  Here we are presenting 7 of them.

1. STDs One of the risks of infidelity is having unprotected sex.

Sex and unprotected sex can be really dangerous.  Indeed, numerous sexually transmitted diseases like syphilis, gonorrhea, HIV or genital herpes can be transmitted when we decide to give up safe sex with our partner and start an adventure.

So, you must remember that the person who has been unfaithful has not only betrayed you mentally, but also considered your honesty and your health.  That is, her immaturity and her sexual needs have become higher than the priority of caring for you and protecting you.

In addition, if you are not sure if your partner is going to change and you think he or she will continue to be unfaithful in the future, you should consider this when considering whether your unfaithfulness should be forgiven: Your health comes first.

2. Injured self-esteem

Many people blame themselves for the distrust committed by their partner.  In fact, it is often the case with some men (or women) who blame their partners after being unfaithful: sex is not the same, we fall into a routine, and so on.

However, it is a kind of manipulation and not predicting the consequences of personal, immature and selfish choices.  No one is guilty of being unfaithful to their partner.

However, sometimes the manipulation works and the cheated person suffers a loss of self-esteem, even taking responsibility for the betrayal of another member of the couple.

Therefore, you must remember that forgiving disbelief means surviving that wound, recovering from it, and learning to see things clearly.

On the other hand, injury can wake you up and make you realize that it is not worth the pain and may feel worthless.  If they make you feel guilty about the actions of others, it is probably best to end it and give yourself time.

3. After disbelief, you cannot believe again

We have explained that faith is one of the fundamental pillars of a relationship.  A disbelief breaks and destroys this foundation, reducing what has been created over time with dedication and effort, because a relationship cannot be found, it is built.

In this sense, infidelity is contempt for everything that has been put together for so long.  It was not taken into account, it was not enough not to give to Capris or will.

Also, how can you trust someone who has been unfaithful again?  Once faith is broken, it is very difficult to bring it back.  Forgiving the betrayal is expressing itself in order to survive the fear that it will happen again in the future.

4. Betrayal can be forgiven, but not forgotten

We know that forgiveness is one thing and forgetting is another.  Moreover, traumatic events such as disbelief are rarely erased from memory.  This is one of the reasons why it is so difficult to restore faith.

Therefore, you must remember that you will never forget that they have been unfaithful to you.  Thus, discomfort, pain, hurt and anger can always be reprimanded.

And perhaps the relationship will not be what it used to be.  Because from a rational point of view, betrayal is likely to be overcome.  However, from a psychological point of view, things are more complicated or more difficult to manage.

5. It could happen again

A cheating person is more likely to be cheated more than once.  As sexologist Tracy Cox explains in Hot Relationships: How to be a person, if someone has created a pattern of "cheating" in life, they have a good chance of continuing it.

Also, once faith is lost, the deceiver's promise to "never do it again" can only sound in the air.  Distrust will reign in the relationship and the second blow may be more difficult for the deceived person's pride, dignity and self-esteem.

6. Shame on the public

When we are betrayed, we feel that they are pointing fingers at us, as if we are guilty of something.  Maybe we are not;  But we can't stop anyone from putting that label on us.

The truth of the matter is that, around a relationship, there are other people: friends, relatives;  And the news often reaches them.  In front of them we can feel shame, discomfort;  Not even talking about the situation.

We don’t necessarily have to pay attention to others who aren’t interested in relationships.  However, if you are going to forgive the betrayal, remember that you can be judged for doing so.

7. Suffer in vain

You've drowned in tears, you've spent sleepless nights wondering why, maybe you got drunk or drank too much chocolate.  But now if you forgive the unbeliever, then all will be in vain.

Think carefully before forgiving betrayal

As you can see, it is very difficult for relationships and those who create it to stay the same after disbelief.  Also, the deceived person may not be able to regain confidence in others.  And you don't have to.