How to choose a partner for life | amkamzon

Sometimes couples come and go, coexistence is never easy, differences appear suddenly and affection is rare;  Mistrust arises and loneliness eventually takes over between two people who, despite sharing the same bed, have an ocean of distance between them.  

Why is this happening?  

Choosing a partner for life is really so difficult?  Although it can be complicated, it is not impossible.

Sometimes we get carried away by emotions without looking objectively at the person in front of us, we blindfold our eyes where it is difficult to objectively analyze other aspects, other dimensions that essentially bring us closer to the perfect person.  Do you want to know those basic keys?

1. While choosing, close your eyes.

It's clear that on most occasions we get carried away by the physical aspect, which is a great business card that awakens our attraction in the moment.  But we must be careful, everyday life and coexistence need other basic pillars with which to be able to enjoy every moment of every day as a couple: understanding, care, affection, kindness, sense of humor, ability to listen, empathy … Go away by looks alone.

2. Good mature people, with ability to learn and listen

Being in a relationship with someone who is insecure about themselves seriously hinders the continuity of a couple.  Insecurities in myself sometimes end up being projected onto others, if I don't value myself, if I don't develop my own skills to protect myself, to see myself as competent, safe and with enough self-esteem, I won't trust my partner.  .  I would fear that he would leave me and I would distrust him.

These are undoubtedly aspects that we must take into account.  When thinking of a partner who can accompany us every day, and all the years we have left to live through his good and bad moments, it is always better to find a secure, courageous person with a good self-concept.

If they also enjoy learning new things every day, the personal enrichment of the couple will be greater, because learning allows us to live and opens new windows for us... Creative people make life not only easier, but more exciting.

3. Who knows how to express, feel, communicate... and laugh

We all know the importance of having a good sense of humor, how to laugh and relativize situations from a positive and upbeat perspective.  Life is full of critical moments, situations where a partner's support is needed, moments where knowing how to communicate and feel heard is decisive.

Having the help and support of a person to whom we can naturally open up is essential to our balance and development as a couple.  People who are able to feel and express feelings, able to talk about what hurts them and what makes them happy, what worries them ... are, without a doubt, the man or woman who deserves to be found as a couple.

4. Choose a person who shares your inner life and hobbies

When we talk about inner life we ​​refer to that essential faculty where we each have our own hobbies, passions, beliefs... our own little world where we find our place, personal corner that must be respected as a couple and where we are individually.  can grow

But, that doesn't take away from the relevance at all, that we share similar hobbies and passions with our partner.  Being a couple is all about being friends, forming a team, enjoying and growing together, having the same values ​​that strengthen our commitment... but yes, knowing how to respect that "personal plot".

5. Endurance

Choosing a partner for life first requires finding the person who allows us to grow together and happily with them, someone who makes our life bigger and not shorter.  So tolerance is essential, someone who can accept our faults, our failures and mistakes, with whom dialogue is always possible and where there is never fear or mistrust.

Endurance must be mutual, friends and lovers must have enough courage to build a life together and give strength to the roots that form the couple's tree, where no storm can topple over time.